When girls who took a purity pledge in adolescence marry as virgins, just to wish they hadn’t waited, it’s a wake up call that some of our churches got it wrong when talking to teens about sex! If we’re honest, we’ll admit that many churches still get it wrong. The evidence is in this blog post that’s making its rounds on social media: “It happened to me: I waited until my wedding night to lose my virginity and I wish I hadn’t.”
According to her story, her virginity was placed on a pedestal as if it were a trophy-earning prize that would get her into the Guinness World Record Book. But how did we get to the point where the goal of virginity is bragging rights? How did we get to the point where sexual morality was only about females? How did we get to the point where those who waited until marriage ended up in luxury hotel bathrooms on their honeymoon and in years of therapy for feeling guilty for embracing sexual desires with their spouse?
None of that is in the scriptures! And we wonder why folks hate the Church.
Whether churches are just simply saying “don’t have sex,” whether they elevate the sin of sexual immorality to a hell-bound judgment, or whether they’re mum over the topic of sex all together, they’re missing the mark! Since we know that all scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, reproof, correction and training, the church’s one and only goal on the topic should be to present the Biblical view of sex. Straightforward with no chasers, or in church terms, no legalism.
So what’s different about Sex & The Gospel?
Let’s be clear that Sex & The Gospel Conferences is not yet another masked opportunity for churches to force legalism down people’s throats. It’s not a purity conference. There will be no ‘pledging’ and no commitment ceremonies. The conference presents Biblical principles regarding sex while also communicating the freeing and saving power of the Gospel. That’s it. Sex & The Gospel, the biblical view.
Let’s stop using scare tactics and false pretense to get teens to remain abstinent, homosexuals to become heterosexuals and husbands and wives to get sexually actively. Let’s just present the truth and let God provide the increase.
2 Timothy 3:16-17; Acts 15:28-29; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7